Im 29 and i live in a small flat on my own coping with psychological problems?

but i want so much more out of life, like somewhere nice to live, meet somebody nice,some nice girl, get into employment. but when i feel really down i cant see any of that happening, i have no friends, i have very low self confidence. my mum tells me to take one day at a time, im tryin to do that, im waitin for a second opinion from a psychiatrist....does anyone else live like me in a small place or flat in a ruff area, with not alot of materialistic possessions, on welfare?? because i feel on my own with thisIm 29 and i live in a small flat on my own coping with psychological problems?
Hey Noel. Pat yourself on the back, friend. You said it - you want much more out of life. This separates you from the crowd. There's one more step and you're closer than you think.



Ben Stein said "The key to getting what you want out of life is this: decide what it is that you want."



I went through depression during and after college. I was alone and had no friends. Why was I depressed and why have I found others to be depressed? Because the a) we don't know what we want and b) we know we want more out of life than to just coast.



It frustrates me that medical associations have turned depression into a 'disease' rather than what it is: it is a warning light on the dash of your life. It's telling you that something needs attention. In your case, you need direction. You need a passion to pursue where you give your great talents and in return, you get back 10-fold. It's out there for you. What is it?



My family tormented my sister with talks of laziness after being fired from several jobs that she hated, sometimes after only working a few days on the job. One day, she found an opportunity to drive horse-drawn carriages, shovel manure and care for horses. She worked 80-hour weeks, her confidence shot up. I would visit her working and enjoy watching how this once shy girl with low self-esteem and confidence was laughing and talking up a storm with her clients.



As for material possessions? We were very poor living with my Mom after my parents divorce. Once I worked out the source of depression and discovered my passion, I made a lot of money and had a large house, new cars, memberships, etc. My wife and I were still not happy with our environment. This summer, we sold every single thing and loaded up only the basics plus our 4 kids (1-8 years old) into our Chevy Suburban. We've been on the road for 6 months touring the country, building our new life coaching business, promoting it and moving to a warmer climate on the West coast of the US. We are much happier on this journey and we're expecting our 5th child. You see, life is much different for me than it was when I was alone and uncertain of which direction to point myself. And here I am now. It's a crazy, but true story.



Success is the journey, not the destination. Set yourself towards a destination that you are passionate about and enjoy the journey. That's where life happens. You can't turn a car if it isn't moving and whatever you do, pay attention to those warning lights - they're there to help.



I wish you the best.
Get up and do it. One thing at a time. Money first. The rest falls into place.

Your Avatar looks like Helen(Mrs) Roper from Threes Company.Im 29 and i live in a small flat on my own coping with psychological problems?
Well, we aren't really ready to be attractive to others until we learn to be independent and be attractive and interesting to ourselves. Sure you need interdependent relationships but we aren't ready for them until we learn to take care of all our needs or learn to cope somehow without the opposite gender or material things. This is healthy emotional growth. It is hard to catch up sometimes.

Finding some spirituality will help.

Finding something you are good at and getting absorbed in it will help.

Gradually become social with other guys like just saying, "Hi" at first.

Boredom is neurotic mild depression from being fixed on something you can't have right now. Try to let go of what you can't have and exploit what you do have.
The same as you, I鈥檓 29, and I live independently in a small apartment, and yes, I have psychological problems. But I may not be in a depressive episode. I think I do suffer from self confidence problems; however while my home is small, the area is not too bad, and I have enough possessions for my needs. Yes, I do get a government pension to pay my bills. It is an area of guilty feelings in my life, but it could be worse. I have my doubts whether I can do much work given my inadequate methods of relating other peopleIm 29 and i live in a small flat on my own coping with psychological problems?
On welfare and paying for internet with a computer. nice.
Me and my boyfriend are going through the same thing. We were just homeless a few months ago and now we are adjusting to life with steady jobs and paying rent. We are just starting to fill our apartment with stuff and make things comfortable, but we have no friends to share our time with.



It's hard to get used to being a twenty-something. I want to change the world right this minute. And I get frustrated easily. To get things to fill your space with, go to www.Freecycle.org It is nice to meet people and if you can arrange transportation, You can get old furniture that someone doesn't want anymore. The best way to get stuff is to have the posts sent to yor mailbox instantly. Things go fast when their free.



I really don't have an answer for friends. We are so lonely, but I'm thinking of joining a knitting or crocheting group. Also I will start volunteering and maybe I'll be able to meet people that way. Good luck and I wish you the best. Also, feel free to IM me or email me, I am looking for friends online as well as in person.