How do I get around not meeting with certain family members without offending them?

I found this family on a Genealogy web site, I chose to meet with them, now that I have, I think they are not what I desired. (They are in trouble with the law) They live in the same state, but I dont' want to have anymore meetings with them. How do I fix this so they understand, and not take offense or call me, show up at my door etc? I don't mind e-mailing them, but I don't want them showing up at my door.How do I get around not meeting with certain family members without offending them?
I think you need to be honest with them. Tell them you don't really have room in your life for them and are sorry for starting all of this when you now find yourself without the time to give.



Tell them that you do not like people to show up uninvited. You can even state to those who are in trouble with the law, that you are not comfortable with their choices in life and like to stay as far away from the law as possible.



Without honesty, they'll keep pushing you and pushing you. Since you found them, they won't understand your change of heart without you just stating it as it is. Being nice and kind and taking the brunt of it onto your shoulders is the easiest way to do it.



best of luck.
If they show up at your door, you simply tell them that you're unable to entertain right now. Be pleasant, and don't offer any explanations. Just say you're sorry they made a trip for nothing.

By the way - of course they should be offended. You judged them and deemed them unworthy of your friendship. Maybe you made a decision too quickly, but you'll never know.How do I get around not meeting with certain family members without offending them?
Tell them that right now isn't a good time for all of U maybe later on when their legal difficulties R straightened out U can get together be careful of the e mails because UR then keeping communication going
I would not continue to email them if you don't want anything more to do with them. This would be misleading. Lessen your communications with them until you don't respond anymore. I would not cut them off cold turkey or they may come around. Wean off your communications and they will stop communicating eventually.How do I get around not meeting with certain family members without offending them?
How could they not have their feelings hurt when you intentionally opened the doors to an association with them?



I understand your hesitation. It's unfortunate that it's turned out this way.



The only way you can handle this is case by case. Politely refuse all invitations, cut short any phone calls and never offer hospitality. Your coldness will warn them off and your will be remembered for it, but that's your choice.



Genealogy is a Pandora's box of problems, sometimes. Contact relatives at your own risk.
Tell them that you are very busy. If they ask you to show up and some events, tell them you will try but can't make any promises. Let them know that you have a very busy and fulfilled life.