i have never been in a romantic relationship. is it possible to live your entire life without meeting someone? cuz thats how i feel. i think im gonna die alone. seriously. im never gonna fall in love... or atleast not requited love.
im only 20 years old. is that normal to nver have been in a relationship?|||LOL. No offense, but 20? You've got a LONG way to go in your life before you even need to worry about this. Seriously.
Don't get me wrong! Loneliness is frustrating at any age, but you are thinking about this all wrong. You're 20!! You have your entire life ahead of you! In fact, you are LUCKY!! Single. Young. You can do whatever you want to, whenever you want. You are not tied down. You are free.
Your problem is not the lack of a romantic relationship. That is not how you should define yourself. Your problem is self esteem. Your problem is your relationship with yourself.
MOST people these days are not with their one and only love when they are 20. Very few of them are. Most people these days don't even get married until they are in their 30s. You are young, and most of the people your age are too immature (and I mean that in a good way) for a serious relationship. You should be out having fun, hanging out with your friends, and enjoying your freedom while you still can.
There are people in this world who are FIFTY and have never been in a relationship. Some of them are sad and lonely, but some of them are perfectly happy. Don't define yourself based on who you are with. Define yourself based on who you are. If you are having problems with this, then see your doctor. You might have a serious depression problem.
If you really want a relationship, meanwhile, you need to get out there and make yourself available. Join a club. Get involved in your community. Get out there and meet people! The fact that you're here at Yahoo! Answers in the middle of the night is not a good sign. You're not going to meet squat here. Get out and have some fun and get involved with activities that interest you. You'll meet other people with similar interests, and you'll be a normal 20-year-old. Happy. Energetic. SINGLE.
Don't believe me? I didn't date a single person until I was 26. Just didn't find the right person, and didn't want to waste my time. I didn't. I had a glorious time between 20 and 26. Then I met the person I wanted to spend my life with. I've been married for 7 years, happily so. I would not have found my storybook ending had I been looking at 20 years old. I'd be just another person with a long history of breakup stories. You'll find the right person. In the meantime, you're YOU. That is glorious. Enjoy it while you can!!|||Hey your still young! Give it time. however, there are lots of people out there who are singles for the rest of their lives. There are some that even got married in their 40's or 50's. n|||I just wanted to tell you I feel the same way as you a lot of the time. I'm 25 years old and have never been in a romantic relationship. When I was your age, I felt the same way as I still feel now, meaning I felt like I might be single for the rest of my life. Regardless of what other people tell me, I still feel that way. I don't think anyone who hasn't been in the same boat as us can relate. Whether we're "normal" or not isn't what's important. It's that we can someday find the right man to spend the rest of our lives with. If I could say anything to help you feel better I'd tell you to spend your time trying not to focus on how you're single but to grow in who you are as an individual. Enjoy who you are and use your extra time to help other people. Figure out exactly what qualities are important to you in a partner and don't ever settle!! Since I've waited this long, I figure there better be a pretty good man out there for me in the end. :-) People tell me I'm still young too, but that doesn't make me feel better (especially since my younger sister is getting married this summer). What makes you feel better is not letting the hope of finding someone die. As hard as that is sometimes, you have to always still have it I think. If you're a great woman, you deserve a great guy, and he'd be lucky to be with you!!|||What is normal? Would you sooner have a 'normal' meal or an 'abnormal' kiss you will never forget for the rest of your life? I think it is quite within the norm to not have met Mr. Right at your age. And it may be you will never meet him. But that is not a reason to marry because you are scared that you will die alone. We all die alone. But you will make friends, you are part of the human race and therefore you will make an impression. You will leave an impact on a lot of people. Hasten slowly.|||ITS possible|||I can tell you that I have personally had these exact same feelings. Its because for me, I cant picture me being with anyone, because I believe I am too scared that they wont like me once they get to really know me. I am 20 years old, and I havent had a girlfriend since grade 7, when I was too young to know what I was doing. I guess my answer isnt as consoling as you'd hoped. However I still believe we will, in the course of our long, long lifetime, we will meet someone that we at least go out with for a while. It just sometimes seems hopeless, but thats simply because you've given up all hope, threw it out the window in a rage of self-pity.|||Yes. Many people don't feel the need fro a partner. Some even never have a relationship.
However, you are young, and haven't seen enough of the world yet. Give it time, don't fret about it, relax, and all sorts of things might happen.|||I went into my 1st real realtionship when I was 26 yrs old. He left me heart broken at 28. It can be possible. But you will find that someone that you connect with. I commend you for not being with someone just to be with someone. Most people do that, and thats not true or genuine. ANyhow, love can be great and it can feel horrible. So, dont worry, live your life, you are young and enjoy it because love can turn your world upside down:)|||only if your very very ugly or your standards are WAY to high!|||Define "realtionship"? You've actually had many relationships. But that's not what you cherish right now, you want romance. Don't get the two confused.|||I understand that Sir Issac Newton died a virgin. [shudder]|||your still young and dont worry if you have never been in a romatic relationship... i know many people who havent and are finding it difficult.. you cant say now, that u r gonna die alone because you never know.. that special someone mite come round the corner any moment and u will be the happiest person alive :)|||Yes it is possible. but why you want to do like this. Live a normal life, dont behave like a super natural.|||Well you're kind of young still, so you have plenty of time.
You don't usually find love either, it finds you. Awww
*que* the gay romantic music ..
Anyway! Go out and meet new people, i'm sure you'll find someone.|||I'm thirty and feel the same I have never touched love even though I'm married. I think i just love what is out of reach I like to torture self that way.|||no... not at all 0_o|||YEH.....my friend is almost 40 and has never been in a relationship- sure she wants to be but has never. So don't worry|||I know a few people who have not been in a relationship in there life , a 69 yr 100yr, 75 yr olds , that didnt get into relationships in there life , now that is a few , and there are a few out there , it isnt that they didnt want to , werent attractive didnt try or whatever , it was just what happened , and most dont have regrets, but do get lonely .. you are only 20 though , dont stress , look out for people , pop the question , be realistic in your choices for a partner , it is the heart and soul which will stay the same , the outside just sags and deteriates , so the inner goodness is what will stay - look for that , and live!|||i know a few people like you, dont worry later or soon you will find someone or he ll find you:)..by the way im single :)|||youve got a long road ahead of you. your still young. just go on and do your thing and it will come probably when you least expect it. dont try looking just let it come to you. but you have to be open to it and meeting guys.|||You are only 20 and still have plenty of time.|||You have nothing to worry about. Your still very young. Go out and get yourself a good job if you don't have one already. Save some money get a new car and an apartment and travel. Do all the things you would like to do before you get tied down to someone that might not be right for you. Don't rush into anything let life take it's course. Perhaps while traveling you'll meet someone special. Good Luck!|||youre still young...plenty of time 醿?/div>
|||my best friend in the whole world hasn't been in a single relationship, she is 22 and not that she totally happy about it but she really hasn't let it bother her, she figures that if someone is out there for her she will know it when she finds him, and don't think oh well its because she is ugly or stupid or something like that, she is beautiful , smart, funny, everything anyone could want in a girl, and its not that she hasn't had guys interested in her, she just hasn't met one she feels is "right", so you are for sure not alone there, i think the worst she has is that she has some major sexual frustration, no worries there's a guy just looking for ya ; )|||I know some guys like that (hey maybe you can hook up ;-p).... but seriously don't worry about it. Someone will come along when the time is right. Those who look for love never find it. Those who let it happen always come out on top in the end.|||yes, but only if you want to be priest...|||I'm 26 and I've never been in a relationship and it's not because of any particular reason. I am outgoing and I have my Masters Degree and I am attractive. What I am saying is that it's not bc noone has wanted a relationship, it's just that I don't feel like I've met a guy where I could really contribute to his life and he could really contribute to mine and it would all work out really well. That's all.
If you're scared of being alone then you're probably sending out desperation vibes (guys can totally smell them). Just focus on all the great things in your life and fill up your life with great activities like going to the gallery, travelling, trying new things, rock climbing (there are LOADS of guys at indoor rock climbing places). Just enjoy your life and make yourself happy and you will attract people into your life.
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